2014-03-04 To L.
2014-03-04
Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck L.! I would make love to you a thousand times right now! (Dedicated to all who think that communication by letter loses spontaneity) What a piece of letter. I knew it, I knew it! I knew you could do it and you’ve shown me. Perfect. Seriously. Paragraphs with defined ideas, correct use of language, clear exposition, easy to read … My most sincere congratulations Lu. Seriously. I knew you could do it.
If you want, I tell you two little details, but do not take them into account much, they are trivialities:
The expression plant time and collect hours with fruit is understood, but it sounds a bit strange and it is difficult to process it. (However, I recently used the expression plant time as well.)
Time can evaporate, but “dissipate” sounds a little weird. (I read it now and it sounds better.)
Otherwise, incredible. I do not know what method you have used, if a personal one or the video I sent you, but the result is incredible. L. continue like that. Now I can answer you.
L.,
It’s okay to stop when we’ve been running over because of hurries for a long time. But I realized this during exam times, where stopping was very dangerous and could have had expensive consequences. Therefore, I learned to take note so as not to forget and leave for further the depth or solution of the problem.
If it helps, try to focus your attention on the studies and as soon as an idea or a thought comes to your mind, write it down in a few words or lines so as not to forget it and continue studying. You have to empty yourself to continue filling
“Clay is molded into vessels
And because of the space where nothing exists we are able to use them as vessels”
(Ta-Kao 1984).
If all goes well, you will be able to keep one hundred percent of your attention most of the time, simply assaulted by sporadic ideas that you will be leaving aside, but without fear of forgetting them. Your mind will be much clearer and emptier. Yesterday I wrote a letter with the following to my mother.
“You have to go empty to return full. You have to go back empty, to fill yourself.”
Still, if you think it will save more time taking a day or some time to empty yourself as completely as you can, do it without a doubt. Do not repress yourself. On many occasions we must allow ourselves to be guided by intuition. As I guess, by now you know that technology is distracting. Try to keep what you do as physical and less digitized as possible.
“Not showing what is desirable keeps their hearts from confusion”
(Ta-Kao 1984)
I hope that my advice solves part of your problems regarding priorities, distractions and attention.
That time is consumed vertiginously does not have to be a bad sign, as long as it is filled with something that empties the spirit. It is normal to feel tired and overwhelmed after long periods of stress. Try to relax and surround yourself with people who support you. For now, being with people who love you will help you a lot. Later, I hope, you will find a personal way to cope with the day to day in a more independent way. When it comes to deepening and internalizing, the technology of instant communication never helps, but instead causes superficiality and externalization, both at the level of external knowledge and personal knowledge. (Knowledge of existence and non-existence.)
It is necessary to make mistakes in order to grow. We are made of mistakes. It’s needed to make mistakes to learn what everyone gives of themselves and what time allows to do. Don’t get overwhelmed, and don’t forget to enjoy life, but if Scouts are going to be a burden and a source of more stress than well-being, make the decision you feel it will benefit you more. You also learn to say no. Over time, we do not know how long it will take and let’s not worry about the rush, you will learn what you need to learn. Learning is always present, and lessons will come. That the lessons and mistakes are repeated over and over again is not a bad thing. Don’t blame yourself, you are supposed to repeat the lessons until they are learned. It’s life, don’t worry and don’t blame yourself. Don’t keep it either, let everything flow.
“Since there is no contention, there is no blame.”
(Ta-Kao 1984)
Regarding your last question, I think that organization and knowing how to say “no” are two factors out of an infinity of them that intervene in our lives. They may be the most important to you right now. Learn the lesson, forget it and empty yourself again. Today, for example, I have decided to change the schedule of my English course, because Mondays from 9:00 to 21:30 are too long for me. I was not taking advantage of my time and effort in the most productive and effective way. So, instead of closing in on the stubbornness of: “I have to do it, because I have a commitment”; I have accepted it.
"Therefore the Sage rules
By […],
Weakening their ambitions."
(Ta-Kao 1984)
I have limits, and I have changed. We are water.
“The highest goodness is like Water”
(Ta-Kao 1984)
Well it looks like this is all I can tell you. I hope I have helped you as what I like to be, your friend, and not your psychologist.
A kiss.
Carlos.
References
Ta-Kao, Chu. 1984. “Tao Te Ching.” Routledge.